Paula Yates always irritated me.
She was just enough older than me for that to be annoying in its own right, and then there was the way that she always mentioned she was a size 6. Every. Single. Time. She. Wrote. An. Article. And then she gave her daughters those ridiculous names: Fifi Trixibelle, Peaches Honeyblossom, Little Pixie and Heavenly Hiraani, which almost seemed a form of child abuse in its own right.
Then it turned out she was Hughie Green’s daughter, which creeped me out rather. And then the poor bitch died aged 41.
I may not be a size 6, but I am not dead. And so I felt sorry for her.
And now Peaches Honeyblossom has died aged 24, poor girl.
“I remember the day my mother died, and it’s still hard to talk about it,” Peaches told Elle in 2012.
“I just blocked it out. I went to school the next day because my father’s mentality was ‘keep calm and carry on’,” she said.
“So we all went to school and tried to act as if nothing had happened. But it had happened. I didn’t grieve. I didn’t cry at her funeral. I couldn’t express anything because I was just numb to it all. I didn’t start grieving for my mother properly until I was maybe 16.”
Katherine Whitehorn wrote that Exodus 20:5 is an observation, not a curse. It says:
I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation
And here we see it playing out once again.
Larkin of course summed it up perfectly, though one summer about ten years ago I flipped his famous poem around. His original is here. Here’s my version. Both seem sadly appropriate now.
They fuck you up, your darling kids.
They may not mean to, but it’s true
that by the time they’re on the skids
you find there’s sod all you can do.
And so it goes from bad to worse
they have the faults their parents had.
Nothing’s learned and that’s the curse
of little shades of mum and dad.
Man hands on misery to man,
and every effort comes to grief.
You do the very best you can
and then they kick you in the teeth.
Poor women. Both of them. They should have died hereafter.